Question concerning ceremony decor…?
I am getting married November 10... less than 3 weeks away. When it comes to ceremony decor for the chapel, I am stuck. My future sister in law is doi...
I am getting married November 10… less than 3 weeks away. When it comes to ceremony decor for the chapel, I am stuck. My future sister in law is doing most of the decorating. She suggests instead of candlelabras use tall pillars with about 3 different sized candles on each side of the chapel. However, my mom insist upon it being the tradional candlelabras. I’m confused as to which will look better. I know what the candlelabras look like but I am not sure how the pillar candles would look and/or be arranged. I’m afraid if I choose pillar candles, I will hate them last minute. Then theres my fiance, that says do whatever I want but then gets an attitude if I choose something my mom likes. I am so stressed and confused over this. Your opinions and suggestions are greatly appreciated.
Other decor will include a large arrangement of callalillies and roses with various greenery in the center of the small chapel. The chapel is really pretty and we are going for a simply decor approach.
Go to a place that has those kind of decorating and look at a pillar with the candles and put some flowers or greenery that drapes to the floor or shorter, I like the idea…………..xx
I believe that during the few minutes you will be reciting your vow with your groom, you will not notice how the room is decorated.
Marriage is not about the wedding, it is about the life afterward.
honestly, candelabras or pillar candles….. i think they will both look great. and i think at the chapel everyone will be focused on you and your hubby, not the candles
good luck!
Whatever you think best. I remember when hubby and I were planning our own wedding, we were bombarded with "strong suggestions" and it drove us crazy. I was thinking just like you – not sure what to do to please either side! We had to please everyone it seemed. My Mother in Law even wanted a barnyard themed wedding, not exactly something that fitted with my very formal cathedral length wedding gown. It was just getting awful. Finally, my hubby and I said nuts to this, this is OUR day, we’re going to do it the way WE want to do it. And in the end, everyone had fun, and the candles, well, they were just minor details – and besides, everyone’s going to be looking at the beautiful bride!
Well…you could do what my cousin did to eliminate the whole "OH my…what do I do" issue and ditch the candles all together. Nobody even noticed that there weren’t candles there, and if they did, they didn’t say anything. If you yourself don’t have your heart set on having candles, don’t stress over trying to make a decision that really only pertains to either your SIL or your mom….it’s not ‘thier’ wedding afterall.
Since you say your’re going for a simple decor approach, I say stick with that ideal and nix the candle dilema, if you’re using a unity candle, just stick with that as being your touch of candlelight.
I think the tall pillars add a certain simple elegance as opposed to the candelabras. I like the pillar look you can actually go online and check it out or where ever you are going to order them from they should have pictures of the different looks that you can look at.
Wedding planning is certainly stressful and sometimes overwhelming.
Can the sister- in- law- to -be show you pictures of what she has in mind so you can visualize the pillars? If not, go with what you know (the candelabras) so you won’t be disappointed on your wedding day should you hate the pillars. No sense in taking that gamble since neither you or your fiance seem to feel strongly one way or the other about this particular issue.
Tell your fiance since he wants you to do whatever you want, sometimes what you want just happens to be what your Mom likes. For pete sakes, it sounds like the arrangements are coming along just fine and you have made great decisions – it really will all work out just fine, sounds like you’ve got lots of help in getting there which is such a great thing.
Congratulations!
Hi and congratulations!
Have you contacted the church to inquire? It may be a moot point…..candelabras or pillar candles. The church may ONLY let you use the candelabras. Personally, I think this would look better. When you say on "each side" of the chapel. Do you mean on each side of the altar? That is what I am assuming.
I work as a church secretary and this is what we do (candelabras)…..it looks really nice.
If the chapel is really pretty, as you say, leave it with the candelabras and the flower arrangement….nothing more. When you try to decorate too much, it takes away from the beauty and simplicity of the church.
Again, I would call the church office to inquire. Good luck!
This is your wedding and should reflect the taste of you and your fiance….not your mother or your friend. My suggestion to you is this: get your friend to take you out to a store that has the kind of pillar candles that she’s talking about so you can get a better idea…or she could show you a picture online. Then you can make a decision based on what you and your fiance like. Don’t let people push you around. As for other decor, you can do something at the end of each pew in the church. You can easily put together small flower arrangements and tie them with matching ribbon to the end of each pew.
Hello Bride-to-be!
Your special day is almost here. What do you want? How have you envisioned this day? It seems you like the traditional tapers as opposed to the pillars. But in all fairness, check out a photo of the pillar candles and see if you want them. If you don’t, go with the ones you want and everyone else will be fine.
Take a deep breath, picture YOUR wedding YOUR way and go for it. God Bless You and have a wonderful life.