How can we make the Unity Candle Ceremony work at my sister’s wedding??
My sister is getting married in October and her and her fiance planned to use the unity candle ceremony. (two candles lit by the mothers are held toge...
My sister is getting married in October and her and her fiance planned to use the unity candle ceremony. (two candles lit by the mothers are held together to light one candle by bride and groom) Our mother passed away a few years ago and the woman that my dad will soon be marrying doesn’t even like the fact that he has kids. Who do you think would be appropriate to have light the candle in place of my mom?
Your Dad will be walking your sister down the aisle to give her away. He could also light the candle. Other ideas would be family members that have played a special role in her life over the years and maybe since your mother has passed away. Sisters and brothers. Is there an Aunt that was really close while you were growing up? You don’t mention if there are grandparents still alive which would also be a wonderful idea.
Have your sister think through the people in her life and who she feels in her heart would be the one to take that spot. It will will appropriate because that is the person she choose. Blessing to you, your sister and her groom, and the family.
Your father. Who says it has to be a woman? I think it would mean a lot to him.
It’s a symbol of 2 families join. I think he represents your family. Or what about you?
You know, the mothers dont have to unite the candles. It can just be the groom and bride uniting the family candles and then light the middle candle.
Use your brother and sisters (including yourself) in place of your mother.Happy Wedding!!
If your sister is close to an Aunt or a Cousin maybe they could fill in for your mom while doing the Unity candle ceremony! It really all depends on who your sister wants up there!
Have the whole family join in. You don’t have to limit this to just mothers.
I would say the father, I have been to weddings where the father was dead and the mother walked the bride down, its ok to do what it takes to involve the parents
No one can take the place of your mother. If she doesn’t like the woman your dad has, then let the DAD do it. I think that would be cool.
your dad could, you could, did she have a sister? your moms sis could, or her mother could, anyone who is close to you or was really close to your mom would be perfectly fine, whoever makes you feel the most comfortable, I’m sorry to hear about your situation and I hope this helps!
Why not have your father, an aunt, grandmother…since your father is going to represent himself and your mother at the wedding then I say use him.
The taper candles (the ones the moms light), can be lit from the start of the ceremony. That’s actually how it used to be done. Skip the whole part about the tapers being lit during the ceremony.
Your father.
My father is deceased, so when I got married, my mom walked me down the aisle.
When it came time to light the unity candle, my FIL escorted my mom and my MIL up to light the candle (the three lit it together), and then my mom walked to the back of the church to walk me down the aisle.
You can have your dad and your sisters FIL escort her MIL up, so everyone’s included.
Hope that helps.
YOU!!! you’re her next closest female relative, right….? so why don’t you do it!! or when the candle lighter for the other candles in the church lights the candles, you can have them light the two candles as well….but i think it’d be nice for you to do it!
Anyone that she feels close to… you, your dad, an aunt, does she have a God Mother?
Good luck~
I wasn’t aware the Mom was suposed to light it.. Either have each set of parents light one – or have each Dad light one – or they can just each light one themselves
if you have a aunt your close with or grandparents if they are around, or a sibling
I would ask your grand mother if she is still with if not ask an aunt or you could do it my father step in at my wedding and did it he walked me down and then they lite the candles good luck i have a soon to be step mom who is 2 faced and don’t like me and my sister so i know how you feel